Moving on to the Main Event   How can you tell when the two of you have had enough foreplay? You cant. Thats why communication is so vital to good sex. Assuming the main point of extended foreplay is to get the woman ready to have an orgasm, she has to let her partner know when shes ready. Ready for what? Thats a very good question.   If the woman can get sufficiently aroused to have an orgasm during inter- course, then the answer is that she should tell her partner, either verbally or by touching him in some way, that he should now put his penis into her vagina. But if she cant have an orgasm this way, she may want him to con- tinue to stimulate her clitoris until she has an orgasm.     Variety Is the Spice of Foreplay   In general, boredom can prove dangerous to good sex, but some people still develop certain patterns that they require to become fully aroused. To pre- vent your entire foreplay routine from following the same script every time, make sure you improvise every once in a while on your way to the final act. Try to avoid turning foreplay into a one-act play - unless, of course, you both decide that you like one-act plays. If you both find comfort in a familiar routine and require that level of familiarity to have the best possible sex, then go for it. Rarely, however, do both partners want to follow an exact rou- tine, so dont be lazy about foreplay. Instead, create different scenarios to keep the boredom at bay. Need some ideas? Turn to Chapter 12.       Chapter 8   Intercourse: Coming Together for the First Time     In This Chapter Changing the way you think about the first time Making the first time special Telling your partner youre ready Experiencing your first time Starting over with a new partner         ne of the great things about sex is that, after you do it, after you experi- ence that great feeling that only sex can bring, you get to do it over and over again, literally thousands of times during a lifetime. Talk about a